Olé! You Have A Genius In You So Keep Following It’s Lead

I just watched a wonderful, inSpiring talk given by Elizabeth Gilbert (of Eat, Pray, Love fame) and had to share it with you.  It is intimidating to be vulnerable when there is a river of creativity running through our hearts and minds begging to be shared with the world, but what else is that river for if not to share it?

Elizabeth does a beautiful job in re-framing this vulnerability and I think you will find this talk very honest, real, encouraging and uplifting.  We all need ways to express our perspective of the world ~ here are some ways to think on them.  Enjoy and BE inSpired! Scroll down and leave a comment if you like ~ I’d love to know what you think.

With Love and
To a fulfilled and happy planet!
Nancy

2013 – A Year Of Moving Past Limitations

BlueThe promise of a new year is juicy and exciting; a chance to examine what last year’s lessons were and move beyond the ones that we couldn’t quite leap over.  Life is like that every day though, if we could only remember as deeply as new year’s, that each new day is a fresh start.  And, I will go even deeper to say that every second, every moment, is only a thought away from taking a different road to a different (better!) destination.

I think it’s fair to say that most of us have beliefs that block a path  chocked with challenges and filled with opportunity to grow.  Boy, when you hit the wall blocking that path enough times, your determination takes a bruising!  You know what I mean?  After a while, it just gets annoying and the illusion of the limitation dissolves into the need to have the task done.  A good question to ask is:  How can I challenge myself with a fear so that I’m not enslaved by that fear anymore?  

One of my daughter’s friends is petrified of dogs.  When they were coming over to pick me up for an outing, I invited them in, specifically so the friend could come in to see the dog that lives with me.  I put the dog in her wire kennel and asked the young woman to come and see the dog.  She was brave and accepted.  Of course, she was a bit anxious, but knew she was safe with the dog behind a locked door.  It was a relatively neutral event.  Over time, I’ll have the dog closer and closer to her friend until she sees that not all dogs are scary or crazy!  How life changing will that be for her to not be afraid of dogs – they are everywhere!

We can use this analogy in our lives.  What can you slowly expose yourself to so that your fear diminishes in thin layers?!!!  I have my own list and will be moving through it.   : )

In the meantime, why not make a list of 3 fears that you’d like to neutralize this year and write down what it would mean to you if they were not there.  How would you be without that fear?  Who would you be without that fear!  Now, that creates a wonderful visual in your mind’s eye!  Taking tiny steps (or big ones!) will add up by the end of the year.  You can do it.  We all can do it!

Love & Blessings.

 

 

One Amazing Solution If You’re Suffering From A Serious Learning Pang

When my eldest daughter was a toddler (2 decades ago…), I was a stay-at-home Mom on a mission.  I wanted to feed her only the healthiest, most-nutritious foods.  I used to buy a line of natural peanut butter, crush up chewable vitamic C tablets and blend them into the peanut butter.  I also added the contents of several capsules of chilled acidopholus so her intestinal flora would keep her eyes gleaming with great health.  I used to bake bread using stone-ground, whole-wheat flour and even considered buying the wheat and grinding it myself at one point. While it was great to do all I could as a Mom, I seldom took conscious ‘me’ time.  I was so thankful for CBC radio (like the NPR in the States) because, there, I could listen to world experts discuss topics about space or culture or the rates of recidivism with certain types of criminals.  This kept my mind juicy and popping with ideas and hypotheses.  I still listen and learn from CBC!

Around that time, I signed up for a womens’ self-development course, led by a keen therapist at a local co-operative, community health centre.  There were 4 other women in the group and, after that course was finished, we students went on to meet for 3 years every week (only missing here and there in the summers when there were family activities going on).  It was great to meet and talk about whatever came up around our self-growth journeys, and whatever else that needed to be shared. 

One time, the therapist, half-jokingly told me “Nancy, you’re suffering from terminal brain rot!”  At first, I was a little shocked to hear this expression but realized, after, that she was sortof right – part of me was bored.  She recognized the challenge stay-at-home Moms experienced – having a curious mind and not using it in a ‘fuller-spectrum’ kind of way.  

When I was a little girl, I dreamt of being a veterinarian.  I loved animals, healing, biology and helping.  As a young teen, I didn’t think I could get through the many years of education, and the expense was beyond my imagination and family means, so I wrote it off.  Boy, being a little older brings such a perspective shift!  Now, I know that I had the ability to do it.

Life happens – and continued learning just kept getting pushed farther and farther back until studying something I’ve always been interested in was like a fading apparition. Hey, that’s okay because I’ve been extremely Blessed in other ways, in my life.  Still, that little nudge has always been there!

Recently, my amazing sister Lynn emailed me something pretty exciting!  I was excited for myself, but also excited for you because maybe you’ve had a pang or two to learn and couldn’t swing it, for whatever reason.  Check out the link below and I hope, with all my heart, that it brings a great big smile to your face!  This post is dedicated to my sister Lynn, who is an amazing woman, friend and sister.  Thanks Lynn!

Now, go check out the long list of amazing, free courses!

YOU CAN do it!!!  :-)  https://www.coursera.org/

Live Long – Learn Lots – and Prosper!

Nancy

 

3 Ways To Neutralize Rejection So You Don’t Ever Have To Hesitate To Embrace What You Want In Life!

In the last post, I talked about our Divine nature as human beings – remembering that we are always more than the beliefs we carry around in the core of our hearts – many of which were false programming handed down, like a gooey virus, from one generation to the next.

One of the most difficult experiences we can go through as children or adults is being rejected.  I’ve certainly had my fair share of it, particularly in my quest for a mate.  It feels awful and most people go to great lengths to avoid it.  What if I told you there is a way to make some peace with rejection?  Would you like to know 3 ways to neutralize the sting of rejection and feel good about yourself again so you can lean into the kind of life you really want to live?

Most people have a good deal of experience with rejection throughout their lives.  Many experiences are rooted back into childhood, where we may have been left out by our tribe of friends or even chastised in such a way by our parents that we felt rejected and hurt.  The conscious sting of this subsides after a short period of time, but the subconscious imprint is still there and, each time we are rejected, it’s like we are experiencing all the rejections we’ve ever had – at once.  OUCH!!  That’s why it can feel so intense and something that will deter us from going for what we want in life.  That might be taking a step into an unknown realm in business, asking an amazing man or woman out on a date, or sharing a creative project with the world.

It’s hard to feel good about oneself when that kind of emotional wave is sliding through our heads, and hearts.  If it’s not addressed, fear of rejection can wither opportunities for growth, and opportunities to start a new life doing something we love, or being with someone we’re attracted to!  So, why not reclaim the right to approach each opportunity with a clean slate and a barely-discernible (or non-existent) level of fear?   Sounds good to me! 

Here are three thought processes to use when approaching something that takes courage, vulnerability and strength, but likely also leaves you open to rejection.  This is like building a muscle – but our dreams/desires are worth the effort!  

Here are your 3 R.N.’s – not registered nurses but Rejection Neutralizers, to buzz for help, when you feel like backing down from a challenge.

 

R.N. 1:  The Ring of Choice.  

Have you ever been out and met someone who you could tell was liking you up but you were getting an uneasy vibe from?  Maybe it’s just someone who totally didn’t fit your picture for a mate at all.  Maybe there’s just a hint of something in your intuitive field that tells you ‘no’ despite their pleasant demeanor or attractive appearance.  In that kind of situation, do you feel obliged to continue any further dialogue with him/her even though you are experiencing these feelings?  Of course not.  You are never obliged.  It is your right to say no for whatever reason.  The ring of choice here is that anyone else has the right to also feel that way toward you.  Some energies just don’t work well together and that’s okay – don’t take it personally!  Be curious, accept the risk and move forward.

 

R.N. 2:  The Ring of Spiritual Mystery

Coming from a spiritual perspective, I am going to refer back to the last blog post and our Divine natures and call in the R.N. of Spirit.  We do not have the answers to why certain events take place in life.  It seems that we are drawn to certain events in our lives to work through Soul lessons.  You may or may not believe in such things but it’s good to keep an open mind in life!  What if we are meant to work through certain events/situations with specific people and, if the person/experience we are drawn to is not in alignment with that, then ‘rejection’ of further interaction is what happens… all for our highest good?  Can we chalk this one up to mystery and just accept that Spirit moves in such ways – magnetizing or repelling us from certain situations – for which there is no logical explanation?  Sometimes, we are the repeller; sometimes, we are the repelled!

 

R.N. 3:  The Ring of Bold Assertion

This one is the nudger and, if you’re an entrepreneur, you’re already wearing this big, chunky one most of the time.  Designing and building a life requires bold decisions and the assertiveness to move forward in a fair and equitable way.  Now, how is it that we can be so bold in one area of life and not in another?  How can some of us build empires but not have the ability to ask an attractive woman/man out on a date, or vice-versa?  This is where we accept the nudge.  Wouldn’t it be great to mentally slide that ring on and approach the person with whatever kind of invitation you have in mind?  Making assumptions about their response is a fear-of-rejection reflex that we enslave ourselves with.  How about throwing off them shackles?!!  How do we know they won’t say yes?  Better to have asked than to always have wondered… what if?  If life is met with a “go for it” attitude in most areas of our lives, then why not make a commitment to open it to all of them?   The Bold ring is a juicy one – it starts with at least trying!

So, there you have the three Rejection Neutralizers to implement when hesitating over jumping in. 

 

Being the Divine essence that we all are, I will offer one more Bonus R.N.!!  This is The Ring of Light!  When standing in the full, bright power of the sun, the Light simply cannot be rejected – it’s too strong, too powerful and unfathomable as to how anything can damage it.  The core of us is that Light and we continue to shine no matter what cloud passes our way.  Having faith in that Divine nature makes these human interactions and experiences seem like dandelion fluff flying in the breeze!  We are more than we can ever imagine!  Be curious!  Be bold!

When the sting of past rejection surfaces, meet it with compassion.  It is so rare that someone in our lives really intends us harm.  Like many other people on the planet, our parents had filters that were not conscious and they did the best they could – our friends as well.  Forgive them by accepting the fact that we all have been rejected and we all have rejected others as well.  It is the human condition.

I hope you have found this component on rejection helpful and that, at some point, you can slip on a ring or two, or three, and move toward what you do want to have in life.  I’ll join you there, if you like, in the ring of contentment, fulfilment and joy!

Love and Blessings!

Nancy

Remembering Your Divine Nature….

It’s easy to forget our Divine nature when we’ve been through a lot of trauma, abuse, and steep life challenges but it’s still there, shining behind the thoughts we think about those experiences – many of which were just not true.  Someone does something and we believe we have the only logical explanation for their actions… let a similar experience happen a couple more times and we might just start believing that there is something wrong with us.  But, what if the assumptions were all wrong?  What if we ended up forming a false, limiting belief?  What if much of what we’ve seen/learned is through all the recycled beliefs that our parents acquired when they were trying to make sense of their own lives?  And how about the plethora that society bombards us with daily?

Underneath the issues we all carry is a Divine force so many of us find ourselves intermittently disconnected from throughout our lives.  Some are fortunate and diligently practice ‘keeping the plug in.’  Sometimes, life holds experiences that are so devastating that we go deep into the pain until it is repressed, or healed.  These difficult life experiences can cause us to look long and hard at how we see ourselves and who we are in the world.  

As uncomfortable as it is, taking time to look under this rug of wonders is a good thing because it can totally transform how we live life.  I know from my own experience that the dissonance has been a call to come home again and live into the present me.

Check out the video I made highlighting some thoughts on this journey – a warrior’s journey – back to find the Truth of one’s heart and spirit, and remembering our innate, infinite Divine nature..

If you would like to complete some worksheets on the same topic, feel free to download them here:  … Remembering Your True Divine Nature

 

 

 

Feel free to leave any comments below!  

Love & Blessings,

Nancy

On Working Out, Shuffling It Up, And Not Hypno-die-zing Oneself!

I can’t overemphasize the good that comes from exercising on a regular basis. For me, it has made a tremendous difference in my life and I am grateful. I wanted more deep change, so it was perfect timing to receive, and act on, an important message: “Start with your physiology.” (Thank you, Mike, Tim and Brendon) 

What it’s come to mean is feeling so much stronger physically because of the accumulation of muscle, the decumulation of 20+ lbs of fat (fat ends up taking on a life its own – pretty scary stuff), and a reduction of stress. My own protocol is: do the scheduled workouts.  When there’s energy that needs to be moved, the denser the energy, the more challenging the workout needs to be. This means that I elongate the time and ramp up the degree of difficulty on the treadmill. After I’m done my 45+ minutes, the energy has shifted and that dense energy has dissipated. Man, that feels good! [ Now, I’m not a professional trainer or physician, so do check in with your fitness/healthcare provider as to what’s best for you. ] If these insights from my own journey help you to feel great, then that is superb!

I’ve also gleaned a couple of things while listening to music as I work out…

Number 1 – I noticed that my music player is set to shuffle. Some people set it to the play the same list every time. It seems that that is a good metaphor for life. Do you like to know what’s coming up next in your life, or do you like the element of surprise?  If you’ve got a iron-clad list going, maybe it would be good to trust “shuffling” some things.

Number 2 – While listening to Billy Joel’s “Only The Good Die Young” track, it dawned on me that by listening and singing along to this song multiple times, I was programming my mind to think this thought. Holy cow! Do I want to tell my brain that only the good die young? No way! Yes, you may be thinking that it wouldn’t bring about an early death (depending on how you view yourself), but it seems to me, that it could very well do just that. So, it’s prudent to really pay attention to the lyrics of the songs that we listen to. I don’t listen to a lot of the music that I used to listen to – for that very reason. There’s so much music with hideous lyrics but, thankfully, there is also a lot of great stuff too. Stay awake and protect your mind!

When you think about the songs you listen to, are there some that may be sending the wrong message to your brain?  Feel free to leave a comment below.

Sending Love,

Nancy

Dropping The Spears Of Shame – There Is No Perfect

It's the accumulation...

In the video below, Brene Brown takes our hearts on a journey that so many of us travel or, if fortune has been good, have travelled-to resolution… the dark road of shame. It’s been my mission to clean up old energy that really doesn’t serve my vision. It’s surprising how the energy from faulty beliefs ends up manifesting in life – and “shame” is the whopper – believing a pack of lies about who you are in this world.  It’s like having a bunch of little spigots stuck in one’s body with a subtle but constant flow of lifeforce dripping out.  It’s hard not to see the results of this over time… dreams and the deepests of desires fade from possibility. No one can afford to leave this leak going and that’s why I’m writing this post – because I so want everyone’s life to be as amazing, juicy and happy as possible – mine, yours, everyones.

There comes a time when it’s necessary to leave it behind. We have the ability to recreate each day anew – start over – leave the past in the past. What happened then is not who you are today. If something comes up that leaves ‘a wash of shame’ on you – listen to what your inner voice is saying… “I’m a bad person for having done that.” It’s imperative to challenge that inner critic and plant a new thought. “I did the best I could then, and I am getting better each day. I am a good person with a lot to offer.” You say this – because you are!  Don’t let a bunch of (negative thought) matadors run loose in your head! It’s not the first, awful, spear that causes the problem; it’s the accumulation of them.  Thoughts create ‘ruts’ in the brain so the sooner you ‘cancel’ the negative thoughts, the faster the brain can create new, positive pathways.   Leave it, and, before you know it, the vision for life has pretty much ebbed away. Say NO!!!  There really is so much more to us than we know and the amazing part is finding as many “easter eggs” of who we are in life. :-)

Now, buckle yourself in for a very moving talk by the wonderfully-courageous Brene Brown.

Shazam!!!,
Nancy

This post is Lovingly dedicated to some special Earth Angels out there.  ; )
“You are the wind beneath my wings.”
Sending Soooooo much Love!  Thank You! 

Two Roads For Fear – Which One Is Resonating Most?

Fear – our world is ripe with it.  There is no one I have ever met that does not deal with it on a regular basis.  Fear will slow down or completely halt a person on their daring journey to something greater.  And, journey to something greater can include a career, parenthood, a budding soul mate partnership, reversing generations of oppression, and more. It is helpful to know what kind of fear is slamming at us, so that we can work through either the mind fear (pachad) or the growth fear (yirah) that is inevitably part of our journey.  The greater the fear, the greater the path, the slower the journey (sometimes), but the bigger the reward.

Everyone is different – what scares the heck out of you might be something that doesn’t bother me in the least.  Just remember that people often hold fear for a really good reason – it’s just that it’s often from an old pattern and not really rational or helpful anymore.  When we see that, we can let go faster.

If all life is sacred, then we must honour the processes we morph through in life, and the processes of others as well.   I liked this video because it honours (instead of dis-owns/shames) the natural process of fear.  Enjoy!


Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

May we boldly go where we haven’t gone before!
Nancy

Going Deeper: Love and Compassion Are Life Keys

Love and compassion do not drain us, they deepens us. Are you okay with going deeper… and expanding your heart?

For close to 3 years, I volunteered in Palliative Care at my (then) local hospital. We were instructed to serve the patients – help them with what they might need/want. The medical staff took care of any medical issues, of course, like moving someone or adjusting a medical device; the volunteers brought drinks, read books aloud, or helped with a task the patient might not be able to complete on his/her own. Most of the people were conscious when I was there and, sometimes, family members were also present.

Sometimes I would give them a foot massage or quietly sing songs that might comfort them or bring back a fond memory. This is such a special space to share with someone because there was always a sense that that person could leave life at any moment. It was incredibly expanding and a deep, deep privilege to help in this way. All expectations dropped – the room was filled with Love and compassion – compassion for that person’s journey toward the final leg of life as we know it and the dissolve of all their life experiences into the big mystery…. what must they be thinking or feeling as they made peace with this “ending” inside themselves?

I wish we all could tap into that place with each other – a place of reverence. If we could, perhaps we would see each other with a deeper sense of appreciation for the life that flows through all of us – and how precious and fragile it is.

Enjoy the video…

Namaste,
Nancy

Kegels – Have You Done Yours Today?

Part of everyone’s good health regime should include doing Kegel exercises to develop/maintain strong, toned pelvic floor muscles. As women, we need strong pelvic floor muscles to prevent pelvic prolapse, and incontinence.  Strong muscles also makes sex more pleasurable. (For men, it helps to prevent incontinence, improves sexual function and helps reduce problems associated with prostatitis).  A quick way to get a few extra Kegels in is to just stop the flow of urine several times when you are peeing.  If you haven’t done Kegels for a while, check out this video made just for we women and follow along.  Aim for 100 a day.

Squuuuuueeeezzzze!    :-)

Heart beams,
Nancy