The promise of a new year is juicy and exciting; a chance to examine what last year’s lessons were and move beyond the ones that we couldn’t quite leap over. Life is like that every day though, if we could only remember as deeply as new year’s, that each new day is a fresh start. And, I will go even deeper to say that every second, every moment, is only a thought away from taking a different road to a different (better!) destination.
I think it’s fair to say that most of us have beliefs that block a path chocked with challenges and filled with opportunity to grow. Boy, when you hit the wall blocking that path enough times, your determination takes a bruising! You know what I mean? After a while, it just gets annoying and the illusion of the limitation dissolves into the need to have the task done. A good question to ask is: How can I challenge myself with a fear so that I’m not enslaved by that fear anymore?
One of my daughter’s friends is petrified of dogs. When they were coming over to pick me up for an outing, I invited them in, specifically so the friend could come in to see the dog that lives with me. I put the dog in her wire kennel and asked the young woman to come and see the dog. She was brave and accepted. Of course, she was a bit anxious, but knew she was safe with the dog behind a locked door. It was a relatively neutral event. Over time, I’ll have the dog closer and closer to her friend until she sees that not all dogs are scary or crazy! How life changing will that be for her to not be afraid of dogs – they are everywhere!
We can use this analogy in our lives. What can you slowly expose yourself to so that your fear diminishes in thin layers?!!! I have my own list and will be moving through it. : )
In the meantime, why not make a list of 3 fears that you’d like to neutralize this year and write down what it would mean to you if they were not there. How would you be without that fear? Who would you be without that fear! Now, that creates a wonderful visual in your mind’s eye! Taking tiny steps (or big ones!) will add up by the end of the year. You can do it. We all can do it!
Love & Blessings.