Tapping Into Money Blocks

Money! Remember this one?

aka…

bacon, baksheesh,  banknote, bankroll, beans, benjamins, berries, big bucks, bits, bones, boodle, bread, bucks, buckshee, c-note, capital, cash, cabbage, capital, change, cheddar cheese, chicamin, coin, coinage, cream, currency, danegeld, dinero, dividends, dollars, dosh, dough, ducats,  lucre, f bills, finbacks, funds, gelt, gold certificate, grand, gravy, green, greenbacks, jack, kale, kitty, legal tender, lettuce, loot, mammon, mazuma, moolah, Oscar, pap, pay, payment, pecunia, pesos, pile, plaster, pounds, shillings and pence, proceeds, purse receipts, ready money, ready cash, rhino, rivets, roll, scratch, silver, certificate, smackerals, smackeroos, specie, spondulicks, sugar, sum, tithe, treasure, wad, wampum, wealth, wherewithal.

These are just some of the terms used for money and I’m sure you’ve heard or spoken a few of them yourself.

Most of us have spent our lives worrying about, not  having enough of, hating it, spending it, saving it, investing it, earning it, blowing it, giving it, receiving it, or hoarding it.  It is only a tiny fraction of the world that was born with lots of it, but even they had to make sure they didn’t lose it!

For me, money often equated to stress because there wasn’t always enough.  One thing I have learned is that it does follow movement and flowing energy.  The ebb and flow of the mind and body will often show up externally, and the realm of money is not missed.  Think “down” thoughts a lot – poof, watch your money go down (unless you have enough to hire someone to manage it for you).

What else can be expected but to form subconscious beliefs about money when wealth is not a reality in one’s family, when parents fight over it, when we go without because there isn’t enough of it and where society paints it with so many negative connotations (“money is the root of all evil”)?  Well, those are places I’ve been and one of my missions is to finish re-constructing my relationship with money because there are many more perspectives/realities about it than my own and, frankly, I don’t believe we were born to be enslaved by it.

While what I grew up around affected my perception of money, the daily ebb and flow of emotions, particularly feelings of rejection, belonging, purpose and even Love, have a pronounced impact as well.  Bruise those areas and it’s easy to knock the money block into a seized-up situation and, because we are unique individuals, each person will have their own list of emotional triggers.

I am an explorer, seeking out solutions that “stick” so that I have a holster of tools to use when I need to change a situation that isn’t working or move through places that need healing.  Helping others to do the same feels natural and good as well.  I did use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) some time ago, but it didn’t work 100% for me because I found the necessity of using specific scripts restrictive.  Well, it was a breath of fresh air to be invited to a series of interviews this week that focused on releasing money blocks.  Pamela Bruner, an EFT practitioner, did a great job interviewing experts and I had a few AHA moments which, to me, is like an ever-patient Divine kiss on my cheek and a hearty hi-five! 🙂    In case you haven’t heard of EFT, it is a very simple system that works on energy meridians in the body (akin to accupuncture but without the needles).  Sometimes, energy gets blocked/trapped along these lines and we don’t feel so great.  That’s where unblocking and EFT comes in.

I feel a bit of a renaissance with the EFT practice because of how Pamela has adapted the practice to focus on the emotions and not so much on a script = Freedom!  Taking care of what I am feeling by shifting old stuff makes room for new, good stuff and more energy!  It feels great.  Here are a couple of videos from Pamela.  You may be pleasantly surprised if you give it a whirl, or two!

These are the tapping points…

Here is a way to work through whatever emotion(s) you would like to shift, without a script!

Feel free to leave a comment about your results or if you have any questions! [superemotions file=”icon_smile.gif” title=”Smile”]


You Are Not Your Story!

A comment from Neale Donald Walsch’s daily insight has highlighted an important phrase to remember and also reminded me of the growth I have experienced in the last few years.  What phrase is that?  Well, it is…

You are not your story.

A long time ago, I had a great loss in my life and it was incredibly painful.  When I reached out for wisdom and guidance, I found that very phrase shared with me.

You are not your story.

What is your story?  And, why do we tend to incorporate and wear the negative aspects more than the positive ones anyway?

Is your story one of injustice, abuse (sexual, emotional, physical…), lack, being victimized/used, abandoned, lied to?  Look at those words – how do they make you feel?  Juicy and alive?  No, ‘didn’t think so.

We can really feel the weight of negative words/experiences – they suck energy away from the Soul and dull the eyes.  Fortunately, when the weight is heavy enough, and we are tired of it, we can choose to relinquish the load.  There will come a point when life’s finite reality seeps in and we wish to live in a more abundant state.  And by abundant I mean – abundance of self-love, courage, assertion for that which you want to experience in life (a family, a home, travelling, etc. – fill in the blank).  There will come a time when accepting the old “story”lines just don’t work anymore and you will say “I want, and deserve, more” and that very shift will be part of the crucial elements that will manifest it.  Please take a moment to listen to this video, and follow the suggestion made in it…  It will only take a moment! (then scroll down because there is more to follow….) No peaking!    🙂


Okay, hopefully, you took a moment to follow along to this beautiful meditation.  Can I ask you something?  While you were watching it, were you “there” in the places suggested or were you thinking about the past (your story)?  Chances are that you were present for all or parts of it and that is where you left your weighty story behind without even realizing it!  Now, the next step is to do it consciously!  And you can – because it will bring you more of what you DO want in your life.  Internal abundance!  We resonate richly from inside and it beams outwardly – and, one by one, the world becomes an ever better place!  “Be the change…”  <3

Love,

Nancy  🙂

The Secret Law of Attraction

While I was driving the other day, I happened to catch an Tapestry interview on CBC (Canadian Broadcasting Corporation) with Jill Bolte-Taylor and, even though I knew of her experience from a previous TED talk, it became clear to me that what happened to her could fall into that etheric, secret law of attraction realm.  I think that everyone’s does.

In case you aren’t familiar with Jill Bolte-Taylor, she is a scientist who studies the brain.  What was very interesting was that she had a stroke and described what it was like while going through it.  Very fascinating stuff.  I couldn’t help but think of how deep her understanding of the brain would be after experiencing, and recovering from, a stroke.  I also couldn’t help but think that Spirit has a Higher purpose for this – and that she would go on to great works with what she knew, intimately, and thoroughly, from experiencing it herself.

Now, what of our works?  Do we have to be a scientist, celebrity or astronaut to have a deeper sense that what we have experienced and what we are to experience is not as relevant to the grand mystery of life?  That each experience we go through will not help us with something important down the road or help one soul, or many souls, to give pause, to change their mind, or to know that they are so right on with their next move…. all through the communication of a look, a nod, a word, a phrase.  You get the idea.  The thing is that it is coming from a knowing place – that sharing.  There is a Higher part of us that brings in what we need and perhaps, in time, that the secret won’t be such a secret anymore…. that what is attracted will be far more conscious than where it stands now.  For me, I am working on it and am far from perfect, but it is neat to see more and do more.

What if we all started opening our eyes more – made our lives more conscious, filled with the work we were passionate about, people we love, places that take our breath away, better ways to live, or world peace?  Think about that because I am going to write a lot more on it.

In the meantime, check out Jill Bolte-Taylor’s presentation.  I think you will enjoy it – it’s amazing.

Love,
Nancy  [superemotions file=”icon_smile.gif” title=”Smile”]

Communication and Compassion is the bridge

I believe, in this life, we are meant to build bridges in this world, bridges to each other, through our hearts.  We go through our lives and most of us end up with a few protective walls or with losses, wounds or scars that run deep.  It’s no wonder there is so much conflict in the world; we are all sensitive creatures.  The missing link is compassion and communication.  What if we could just relax a bit and really try to hear what the other person is saying?

We all have different styles of communicating and this is tinted by our particular walls and wounds, in general, and, if applicable, specifically with that person. We also all live by different values and principles.  The only way to make anything better is to speak your Truth.

I had an incident this week that was rather enlightening which will help to illustrate my point.  Because this friend of mine communicates differently than I, I misinterpreted (for a long time) what his silence meant.  For me, my learned pattern was that silence was not a great thing – it usually implied anger and rejection.  Using this old template, I interpreted my friend’s silence in the same way, and my interpretation manifested as a sadness in my heart that I carried around with me.  Sadness came from caring about/for this person and feeling the ditch of misunderstanding between us.  How interesting when a door opens a little!  The wonderful thing about communication is that it leads to understanding of not only the other person, but of ourselves and where we jump when there is something we don’t fully understand.

I could never quite totally “get” the “theory” that people would share with me about feelings being a choice one makes, but they are if there is a willingness to see what filters are bending an event.  For me, they were old filters.  Seeing this clearly allowed me to release it.

When we communicate with each other, we come to see that we are mirrors for each other.  What are we creating within ourselves and with those we care about?  Here is a neat video that touches on some of these issues and goes a little further.  I’m sorry that it ends a little abruptly but you can access the next one on Youtube; watch for the link.  (cont’d…below)


I am doing a lot of releasing work right now. I am grateful for all the insights this is bringing me and I will be posting further on this.

Thank you for reading along and, as always, I wish you a bright and beautiful day!

Love,
Nancy 🙂

Thank you to all those who let their Light shine!

Decrease stress, increase health, simplify….


I love to cook and part the adventure of it is trying new foods to cook with.   I was looking up what to do with some Thai eggplant I found the other day and made another discovery…. an on-line menu planning system that is free to use.  Unless you have someone in your household that does the cooking for you, you will probably find this nifty tool quite ….well … nifty!  [superemotions file=”icon_biggrin.gif” title=”Big Grin”]  The thing is – when meals are planned out ahead of time, it saves money, decreases the stress of foraging for last-minute menu items, decreases extra trips to the grocery store, creates more room for healthier meals and, overall, simplifies life.

There are tons of great recipes on the site that you can just click and add – how easy is that? !!!  [superemotions file=”icon_wink.gif” title=”Wink”]

If you’d like to try it out, here’s the link: CLICK HERE

Let me know how that works for you in the comment box below!

Bon Apetit!

Change is closer than you think!

Who hasn’t heard of affirmations?  They are almost a household word now because the wave of healing is slowly sweeping across North America, and the world.  We are told that everything comes from thoughts – what you think manifests outwardly whether you like it or not.  Will that be a tall order of Heaven or hell?  It is our own choice.  This is why it is imperative to take responsibility for what is going on between our ears!

There is a strong case for this practice – we must introduce new thoughts to replace the old thought tapes of former (childhood) conditioning.  These reminders, and I call them reminders because we are Divine Beings and we already know these thoughts in the deepest part of ourselves, well, they serve to build new neuropathways – new connections – that will erase the old connections that no longer serve us.  The key to all of this is time.  We must be willing to commit to reminding (affirming) the new messages for at least 30 days – this will allow the new thought patterns to take hold.  Repetition is vital for long-term memory so repeat the process several times a day.

How excited would you be, after 30 days of feeding positive, expansive messages to yourself, you felt a deeper sense of Love for yourself, for your Loved ones and the world?  I think it’s worth finding out!

Would you like to see more information about affirmations?  Feel free to leave a comment to express your thoughts.

Now, enjoy the great day ahead of you!
Nancy

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Trauma: the Amygdala, the Thalamus, and Healing


I had the great fortune to watch 2 DVD’s this week from
Paul Hegstrom and the topic was trauma, and how it affects the brain.  Wow, these are great resources if you want to understand why certain things trigger you.  I found them very enlightening and educational for my own journey.


Dr. Hegstrom believes more than 90% of marriage relationship problems
are linked and/or caused by childhood wounds.

Maybe you’ve already considered that our brains are like computers…only there isn’t a computer in the world that can do all the amazing things are brains can do!!  Hegstrom tells us that our thalamus is like the software that runs our computer … recording everything.  When we have a traumatic experience, the amygdala (often called the reptile brain) kicks in and we are guided to either flee, fight, or freeze.   Many things can kick the amygdala into gear and he speaks of the major players, especially when we are children, as:

  • rejection
  • incest
  • molestation
  • emotional abuse
  • physical abuse

This will often create “an internal perception of powerlessness” with many more symptoms being piled on as time progresses and the issues are not dealt with properly.  I will speak further on this topic in the future but just want to add that once we are adults it is up to us to seek out answers to our feelings/behaviours so that we can heal and live a richer, fuller life.  When life is going really well, these issues are often submerged, but sometimes, certain experiences will bring up much of the burried pain.   It may seem that this pain is insurmountable, but that is not the case at all.  Once a commitment is made to deal with and heal past wounds, true freedom – spiritual freedom – is waiting to be had.

Again, if you are looking to understand a deep wound in your life, check out his material.  There are some Christian-religion references, so that may or may not suit you, but the material is the best I’ve seen to describe what trauma does, and I encourage you to check it out either way.  See below for a short clip where Hegstrom explains his system.

All my best to you!
Nancy

*Got Self-Sabotage? – Cut a new record, Burn a new DVD… Re-program for success!


I have not blogged for a while.  This is because I am doing more healing work.  We all run into hidden subconscious blocks.  These blocks are also known to cause self-sabotage.  They come up and we deal with them through healing processes.  When we do healing work, it is important to have a sense of safety in order to proceed.  Safety is necessary in different areas of our lives so I am not talking just about physical safety.  I am also talking about a support network of people who will stand by you when you experience, sometimes for the first time in your life, feelings that were stuffed down for a long time.  This stuffing process happens when it is not safe to share right away or the feelings are too big to process at the time.  They sit in the body and come alive when a situation is replayed; this is called a trigger.

As I have moved along my journey to living the best life possible, there have been many pockets of self-doubt.  Basically, this is from old tapes/records that were cut into my subconscious mind and much of this programming was negative and fear based.  Here is a helpful video that animates it all…


Dr. Darryl explains this very well.  We can see what the old records are saying and how they are not working anymore.  Great!!  Now, we can burn a new and improved DVD to replace the old, outdated and unwanted tapes.  So, everytime you sit down and visualize what you do want, you are burning that onto your DVD (subconscious mind) and THAT will be the automatic stuff that will come up, but you have to imbed this over about a month.  This explanation has just clicked with me and I hope it helps you.  Let’s get a stack of blank dvd’s and get going!  We may not be able to change some painful elements of the past, but we certainly can toss out the old records and burn a new program – for success and happiness!

*Be Careful! Your brain is listening…. and so is everyone else’s!

From time to time, you might overhear me saying to my kids: ”Be careful because your brain is listening!” … and so is everyone else’s!  For many of us, we have become so ingrained and asleep to our inner and outer language that we seldom notice all the negative stuff that we, ourselves, are feeding our own brains – never mind the countless external sources downloading negative information (i.e.: the news on t.v.).

It is said that the brain is like a recording device – recording 24/7. Patients, under hypnosis, have been known to repeat back conversations (verbatim) that the surgical/medical crews  were having while the patient was unconscious. What does that tell us about our brains and what we are saying inside and out, with little thought about its significance? Once in there, these words can wreak havoc.

It seems an imperative time for us all to wake up because global changes have begun and we will need to shift the way we live so our world doesn’t look like a scene from the movie “Soylent Green”. Patterns need to be changed and language is a good place to start.

The first place to start is at a microscopic level: the Self. It takes a constant “weeding” of thoughts to create a clean mind, happy heart, and solid self-esteem with which we can build many great things. For many of us, it will be a life-long process for a variety of reasons – but the point is to be in that place of awareness. It’s not always an easy task and takes discipline to stay on track, but the results are far better than without.

Let’s start with a few words that disrupt people and, ultimately, the planet. You will have your own list that you know doesn’t belong in a Loving environment. I have my list and these words have already been dumped out of my vocabulary for many years: hate, loser, and stupid. How do these words sound to you when you say them?


  • Let’s look at the word “hate”.

In my book, hate is opposite to Love. Hatred is at the root of genocide. It describes a total disregard for another Being’s value on this planet. How can I express an annoyance or dislike for anything with such a strong word? It’s sortof like using an atom bomb instead of a broom. War and propaganda are good examples of this and it is well within the capacity of human Beings to live without war. Take a look at war-time propaganda which always tries to alien-ate the “enemy”, convince us that we are NOT inherently the same, NOT all One, and you will find yourself in a war zone of words, never mind bombs and battlegrounds. During the second world war, caricatures of “the enemy” had them depicted as rats! We are all One and the world is shifting closer and closer to this realization, and peace. We just need to heighten awareness. That is why this particular word is just not in my vocabulary anymore.

 

  • Let’s look at the word “loser”.

NO ONE is a loser in this world. We are all One great big, amazing, organism, expressed in billions of unique ways. Many call this God/Universe, etc. If we consider that every Being has courageously chosen to come here in order to learn whatever lesson they are meant to, they cannot be a loser. Further, if we all are One, what we label others is something that also is us! Would we call our child a loser? (hopefully NEVER) The word is designed to wither whatever it is aimed at – is that the kind of world we want to live in? How is this world going to be a better place with this kind of dialogue? Remember, this is the world that we are creating for our children to live in.

 

  • Let’s look at the word “stupid”.

Like loser, this word screams negative. Stupid is a disempowering word, whether it is thrown at someone as an insult or carried on our own breaths, to ourselves; it is a deconstructor.

There are words that create a really good vibe within us– make us feel great and expanded – we resonate with that goodness and pass it along to others – and then there are words that feel acidic and constricting. Again, we must ask ourselves what we want to BUILD in this world. We have to start with ourselves and recognize that we may be carrying the energy from being called these things and that might be why it exists in our vocabulary. It’s like watching violent movies; after a while, a person gets “acclimatized” to what would originally cause an upset from seeing such things.

I have a relative who was told from the time he was a young child that he was stupid. I won’t disclose his relationship to me out of Loving respect for him, but he was told so often that he was stupid (and treated like a loser), that he came to believe it down to the deepest levels of his Being. His life was frought with many heart-breaking experiences (addictions and incarceration) and only now is he starting to see himself as he truly Is, a bright Light, at the age of 50. My heart has mourned his life for a long time and thoughts would cross my mind …. what if he had actually been lovingly supported? What if he was told he was special, unique and beautiful? Hopefully, witnessing such experiences shapes us to bring something better into the world.

Watching our everyday language seems like a tiny, almost undefinable, step toward a better planet, but it holds far more power than we may realize. When we are grounded into the bigger picture ( a life of construction for ourselves and our children ), it could very well be the impetus to continue to weed out our language garden. As time goes on, it has become so concretely obvious how imperative it is to be be gentle with our words – they can build or break. Let them be builders for ourselves, for others, and for the world.

*Thoughts on the Journey of Transcending Challenges


Honouring Our Pain

Pain. It certainly is a four-lettered word. We have all been squeamish with it and most of us avoid it as best we can, but what if we can look at it from a different angle? What if we looked at all events in life as a page or a chapter of learning? Pain is no different.  It is designed to teach us something – not just us either but, hopefully, those around us as well.

I remember a particular event in my life where I felt like Pandora’s Box had been opened – so many repressed feelings from childhood trauma seemed to be percolating up and out, all at once. People did not understand – even I did not fully understand all the pain I was feeling – but I can tell you that I was glad that it was on its way out.  If not, what  happens to such energy if it is not released?  I think this is where we’d get into some serious health problems.   “When going through hell, keep going.” (Winston Churchill)    Also vital to the process is a support network along the way.

Some people in my life did not understand at all and could not support me.  It makes sense though – it is hard to witness/support another when that person has repressed their own pain and are just were not capable of holding a safe/supportive space for another. “Get over it” and “Just put it behind you” are not supportive thoughts – if the person could, they simply would.  In trying to convey to others, I did find a good analogy…

Deeply painful moments are like putting our hands on a cast iron frying pan that is sitting on top of the large element, set to “high”.  After a few minutes, the pan is very hot and glowing red from so much heat. Imagine one’s hands are on the surface of the pan for about ten seconds – you can imagine what that would create. After peeling one’s hands off of the pan, there’s probably some flailing around, screaming and attempts to soothe them. This kind of pain is no different from intense emotional pain and yet you would never think of telling anyone to “get over it” in a physical situation. There is such a gap between the mental/emotional realm and the physical realm, in terms of public perception. People just need support and tools to “get over it” or “just put it behind you”.

We have to be okay with letting others move through their pain by acknowledging that everything is a teacher.  The best we can do is affirm our love for that person and be there for him/her while remaining cognizant of our own needs.

Our society seems pretty feeling-challenged. In other words, certain emotions are okay but others are not.  I hardly have to touch on the positive side of the spectrum – there’s not much to say because this is generally pretty pleasant.   We are socialized to keep the ‘negative’ emotions at bay.  How was your sadness or tears met at home? Was this welcomed or did you have to stuff it?

By honouring our feelings, and those of others, we enrich our lives and deepen the wells of compassion, empathy and growth in the world.  I think there’s a good deal of room available to expand on this!