I believe, in this life, we are meant to build bridges in this world, bridges to each other, through our hearts. We go through our lives and most of us end up with a few protective walls or with losses, wounds or scars that run deep. It’s no wonder there is so much conflict in the world; we are all sensitive creatures. The missing link is compassion and communication. What if we could just relax a bit and really try to hear what the other person is saying?
We all have different styles of communicating and this is tinted by our particular walls and wounds, in general, and, if applicable, specifically with that person. We also all live by different values and principles. The only way to make anything better is to speak your Truth.
I had an incident this week that was rather enlightening which will help to illustrate my point. Because this friend of mine communicates differently than I, I misinterpreted (for a long time) what his silence meant. For me, my learned pattern was that silence was not a great thing – it usually implied anger and rejection. Using this old template, I interpreted my friend’s silence in the same way, and my interpretation manifested as a sadness in my heart that I carried around with me. Sadness came from caring about/for this person and feeling the ditch of misunderstanding between us. How interesting when a door opens a little! The wonderful thing about communication is that it leads to understanding of not only the other person, but of ourselves and where we jump when there is something we don’t fully understand.
I could never quite totally “get” the “theory” that people would share with me about feelings being a choice one makes, but they are if there is a willingness to see what filters are bending an event. For me, they were old filters. Seeing this clearly allowed me to release it.
When we communicate with each other, we come to see that we are mirrors for each other. What are we creating within ourselves and with those we care about? Here is a neat video that touches on some of these issues and goes a little further. I’m sorry that it ends a little abruptly but you can access the next one on Youtube; watch for the link. (cont’d…below)
I am doing a lot of releasing work right now. I am grateful for all the insights this is bringing me and I will be posting further on this.
Thank you for reading along and, as always, I wish you a bright and beautiful day!
Thank you to all those who let their Light shine!