Last week-end I had a rare opportunity to participate in an assertiveness training workshop and it was such an eye opener! I highly recommend this kind of training to everyone because we often forget how to really communicate with each other about our wants and needs, or to help others express theirs to us. The course was small – only 3 participants (including yours truly) – and the teacher was wonderful. Dr. Dan Sydiaha has decades of teaching experience and is an expert at delivering the material. What a great opportunity to attend, particularly with these class dynamics.
It is astoundingly common that most people do NOT know their rights, and if you don’t know them, you can’t own them. It’s not like most of us have never read them. On the contrary, I had read them long ago but there is something about timing that allows the “right” information, at the “right” time, to really permeate one’s consciousness, particularly through this kind of experiential learning.
Being in chronic situations where one is asking over and over again for something (a need, a right) and not having it acknowledged, respected or fulfilled can really jump the needle up on the stress-o-meter. Also, having been in a work-place where bullying was going on, I can attest to how badly these skills are needed right now – in order for people to function at peak levels. Being in unhealthy situations can really wear one’s Spirit down and re-owning one’s rights can act as an empowering re-set point.
Here is a link for you to learn, or reacquaint yourself, with your personal rights… click HERE. Take your time and focus on reading each one and how you feel after you’ve finished the list.
Consider how many times in one day yours were transgressed, or that you may have transgressed someone else’s.
This is a local act, with global implications! Think of some of history’s leaders who completely obliterated the rights of thousands/millions of people – what if they had been respected as children and taught to respect others’ rights as well? In Rwanda, 800,000 people were murdered in one month, Cambodia’s Khemer Rouge, led by Paul Pot, murdered two million people and I don’t have to remind you about Hitler. Yes, I consider it — that far reaching — so if we want to be the change – we must take responsibility for that and learn — role model this to/for our children and all the world’s children. Life is easier when we do not oppress ourselves, or others!
Know Your Rights! Click here to read them!
Here’s to a healthier world!