Mind Your Mind, Your Spirit, and Your Body

Glowing Heart Lotus

 
 

 

 

I’ve been through a lot of tests/lessons in my life, some of which I  wondered how (and even if) I would make it through them.  Undoubtedly, you have too.  Loss of the people we love can trigger old grief, unhealed, dangling events from childhood that call for attention.  There are so many layers in life that emerge as we grow.  I think they only come when they come because that is when we can deal with them.  If we don’t address them then, they will emerge again, until that layer is resolved.  The best we can do is feel them, understand them, let them speak to us and give to ourselves the very thing that was probably wasn’t present when they occurred:  compassion and Love.  Excellent investment = a journal. Write, write, write – even if it’s a sentence or two each day!

  

In The Nice Girl Syndrome, by Brenda Engel, there is an exercise asking the reader to list all the areas where one’s parents were neglectful.  Not being aware/conscious of these areas can cause repeated reinactments in one’s life, to resolve the pain.  After listing these areas, the next step is to do these items on the list – for yourself, now.  So, if you felt neglected because you always got the hand-me-downs in your family, then make a conscious effort to buy new things (if that’s do-able).  If you felt neglected because one or both of your parents seldom/never said “I Love You”, then tell yourself  “I Love You” in the mirror every night.  Say it until you see your face soften and you really feel it.  I’ve done it.  It feels weird at first, but it does work to soften the heart.  In what ways did you miss out?  Did you miss out on being allowed to freely express your feelings?  Do it now.  Start with the safe people in your life and take small steps, but keep this in mind – we were socialized as women to be nice, good and never get angry (oh my!) – it is your perfect right to feel what you feel.  I highly recommend Brenda’s book (above) for some great insights.
 
 
If you can use this tool for your childhood issues, then why not use it in your adult life as well?  What things are missing from your life now?  How can you give them to yourself?  For instance, maybe your list includes an issue of being lonely.  A solution might be to volunteer at a hospital or take up a hobby that you really enjoy.  With the latter, investing time in the things we love to do scatters lonliness to the wind.  For me, some favourites include reading, painting, and hiking. What do you love to do that you are so pleasurably absorbed in that you lose track of time?
 

In the meantime, it’s easy to get off track with exercisingbecause the mind/emotions are so engaged, but it’s important to feel strong and flexible.  I did an amazing dvd yesterday and wanted to recommend it to you because it is so free-ing to do it!  Click on the link to find some info. on it…  Shiva Rae – Yoga Trance Dance.  Good stuff if you like to dance and like yoga, but you’re not at the hard-core toes in your ears level yet! : ))  I also find that investing a bit of time to move my body helps me to make better, healthier choices later on.  In what ways do you support your body, your temple? 

Love, 

Nancy  : )

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