Osirus And How Your Heart Measures Up

When I was a young girl, I was fascinated with King Tut and ancient Egypt. It’s interesting how the areas we are attracted to in life often have a lot of relevance later on.
In ancient Egypt, Osiris was the biggest god of the underworld.  When people died, their hearts (which were believed to be the dwelling place of the Soul) were removed and measured against the feather of Truth.  If the heart was heavier than the feather, the heart would be thrown to Ahmet – a monster of a creature that would snap it up, chomp it down, and it would be game over for your soul – no hope for re-birth!

I thought this was a powerful concept and that’s why I’m sharing it with you now.  Most of us go through life inadvertently collecting judgments, resentments, hurts, disappointments -and more- from all the experiences we’ve gone through.  It’s not always a conscious choice – feelings are just felt and often not totally processed.  Society is riddled with this – most of us have grown up in homes where feelings were distorted in some way.  We learned to process them by… stuffing, downgrading, anesthetizing, projecting them onto others.  But, they fester and colour our perception of others and our world.  

Think about it!  Could you honestly say that your heart is free and clear and feels as light as a feather?  I know I couldn’t, but I’m working on it and being aware of this, visualizing that feather in my heart, is a cool little practice.  Being conscious of feelings by checking in …

“Do I want to hang on to this yucky feeling — or can I forgive this person and let go of these _____________ vibes?”  

(fill in the blank with your feelings.  By taking ownership of them, they can be released because you choose to do just that). 

Maybe Osiris isn’t waiting downstairs, but we are all here NOW – on the ground floor- likely, wanting an expansive, well-lived life.  Holding a feather in your heart is a good way to start, or continue, on that path.

Walk tall and carry a light feather!

Love,
Nancy

 

It’s Sometimes Necessary To Pass Alone

Recently, I heard a woman expressing her heartbreak around her mother’s passing.  It was difficult enough to lose her mother, but a lot of pain was coming from the fact that she was not present when her mother passed.  She had stepped away to get something to eat and her mom passed while she was out of the room.  This is a huge source of grief for people and I want to lend another perspective so it might lighten your heart if you ever have to go through this.

Several years back, a friend of mine was married to the love of her life.  They were married for over two decades and finished each other’s sentences.  For a while, he worked in a mine – and his time there would be the source of a lethal illness that developed not long after.

When he was diagnosed with cancer, she was there for him.  Night by night, she stayed by his side, never leaving – but it began to take a toll on her.  She told the on-duty nurse that she would take the bed they had offered in the other wing but didn’t leave until they assured her that they would call her if there was any change in his condition.  She laid her head down on the pillow and fell into a deep sleep.  Around 4 a.m., she awoke with a bad feeling and hurried back to her husband’s ward only to find that he had passed while she was sleeping.  I cannot tell you all the pain she went through from not being there with him.

The thing about this heart-wrenching circumstance is that it happens often – the part where the loved one passes when they are alone.  Sometimes, people just cannot pass if their loved ones ARE present.  They may not be able to handle the grief their family/friends feel, the tension of letting go, or their own struggle with having to say goodbye – from this world, from the people they love dearly.

It’s hard enough to see a loved one pass but to endure even more pain because you feel that you did something wrong (abandoned them) is further damage to an already-hurting heart.  It’s easy to think – bad time to leave – should have slept in the chair again that night – should have booked an earlier flight out… but please stop to consider that the person passing may need to pass alone, it’s not personal and no one did anything wrong – they just need to go that way.

I hope that, if you or someone you care about, ever has this experience, you will find comfort in a different way of looking at these things.

Love,
Nancy

Superbug Roulette with Canadian Grocery-store Chicken

Part of the reason that I chose to drastically reduce my consumption of meat (basically, I’m 98% vegetarian) shows up in an alarming documentary recently aired on CBC’s Marketplace show.  It is imperative to be aware of this problem because it has far-reaching health effects, particularly if you’ve taken many doses of antibiotics and may have developed some resistance to them.

Because of the current laws in Canada, chicken producers are permitted to feed antibiotics full-time to their chicken flocks – even when they are perfectly healthy!  As one person put it so succinctly in the presentation which we’ll get to soon – would we consume these powerful drugs along side our vitmains – every day?  Heck no!  We realize the redundancy/danger in doing so.  This gap in reasoning is somehow eluding the Canadian meat producers and particularly, the bodies that oversee laws and public health/safety.

We are regressing – because of the serious misuse of these drugs – back to the time when, if someone contracted pneumonia, 50% died of it within 16-20 days.  Why?  Because they had no antibiotics to rely on.  We are getting close to the point where these drugs will no longer work if fast-crop profits are put over public health/safey. It is not only our voices, as  consumers, that help change policy, but our actions as well.  Money talks.  Try buying something else.

One alternative, when choosing a protein source at the grocery store, is to consider beans which have a lot of protein and fibre (meat has no fibre!).  If you are concerned about adding to the current global methane challenge that may result from eating beans, try buying Bean-o (an enzyme which helps inhibit natural gas formation…  ; )  Works for me-hopefully for you too if you need it!

Read labels, stay safe!  Here is the video…

CLICK HERE to watch the 22-minute presentation.

Love & Blessings!

100 years – International Womens Day – Are You A Feminist?

One hundred years ago, in Canada, women were not legally considered “a person” and thus not allowed to vote!  It wasn’t until 1918 that womens’ voices were finally able to be heard when they acquired the right to vote.  We owe a lot to the women who fought for these rights and, as the video (below) alludes to, need to boldly take back our roles as Feminists.  (Feminism: The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. Oxford Dictionary, online)

I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat. Rebecca West

The word brings up a lot of different meanings for different mentalities but it is a simple word – complicated by controlling groups trying to dictate to women how they “should” be in their bodies, spirits and lives.  I say, it’s time for women all around the world to define what is right for themselves.

There is still balancing needed – very much needed – and I would even say – desperately needed – in order to right the course of our planet.  Following the principle of yin and yang, within the yin, there is a little yang, and within the yang, there is a little yin – but when we look at the balance of power in the world, we see that women’s voices are not represented enough and more men are needed to stand up to speak on behalf of womens rights.  It truly is in their best interest to do so.  We really need our partners for global change to happen.  WOMENS voices, in all their feminine glory – need to be heard from the grass roots right on up to the political realm.  Women do things differently and it is this difference that is missing from the slipping vitality of our planet.

So, today, let us reflect on our voices, on a grand reclamation of our Feminist selves,  and on shifting this planet so that everyone can benefit from a healthier world.

Do you think the world would benefit from greater levels of female energy – or are we ok as we are?

Please feel free to leave a comment.

Click the link below for an insightful perspective on where women stand these days…

http://www.cbc.ca/documentaries/doczone/video.html?ID=1827955896

Here’s to a better planet, for us all but especially for the generations that are to inherit it.

Boldly, with Love and Hope,

Nancy


2011 – What It Could Be


Well, we are beginning a new year and I have to say that 2010 was filled with a lot of ……… experiential learning, so while it was NOT a particularly easy year (some of it really sucked), it was tasted, lived and learned.  I am thinking of calling 2010 my year of NO (…and, thus, KNOW) because of all the no’s I received and the no’s I ended up saying to myself!  Each experience holds a silver lining, a life lesson, so I will say there were many in the last year.

And 2011?  Well, it could be shaped into a productive, prosperous, happy, healthy and Loving year – or not.  I choose door #1 – the not-so-easy door.  Why?  Because it means being a lot more vulnerable.  Everybody starts off from a different point in life.  Some of us were steeped in a healthy, Loving and supportive environment but, unfortunately, most of us were not.  Part of the reason why we don’t live as fully as we could is the residue that remains, even after all those years.  Holding back comes from fear(s) – and, often, clusters of them, uniquely tailored from our own experiences, disappointments, and pain.  With that in mind, it is hard to be really vulnerable, but as the following excellent TED talk by Brene Brown explains, it is the key that opens the doors to a fuller life.  Have a listen and give it some thought.  Leave a comment if you like.


Thanks for stopping in!

Sprinkling some Love,

Nancy  : )


Do You Know Your Rights?

Be The Change.....

Last week-end I had a rare opportunity to participate in an assertiveness training workshop and it was such an eye opener!  I highly recommend this kind of training to everyone because we often forget how to really communicate with each other about our wants and needs, or to help others express theirs to us.  The course was small – only 3 participants (including yours truly) – and the teacher was wonderful.  Dr. Dan Sydiaha has decades of teaching experience and is an expert at delivering the material.  What a great opportunity to attend, particularly with these class dynamics.

It is astoundingly common that most people do NOT know their rights, and if you don’t know them, you can’t own them.  It’s not like most of us have never read them.  On the contrary, I had read them long ago but there is something about timing that allows the “right” information, at the “right” time, to really permeate one’s consciousness, particularly through this kind of experiential learning.

Being in chronic situations where one is asking over and over again for something (a need, a right) and not having it acknowledged, respected or fulfilled can really jump the needle up on the stress-o-meter. Also, having been in a work-place where bullying was going on, I can attest to how badly these skills are needed right now – in order for people to function at peak levels.  Being in unhealthy situations can really wear one’s Spirit down and re-owning one’s rights can act as an empowering re-set point.

Here is a link for you to learn, or reacquaint yourself, with your personal rights… click HERE. Take your time and focus on reading each one and how you feel after you’ve finished the list.

Consider how many times in one day yours were transgressed, or that you may have transgressed someone else’s.

This is a local act, with global implications!  Think of some of history’s leaders who completely obliterated the rights of thousands/millions of people – what if they had been respected as children and taught to respect others’ rights as well?  In Rwanda, 800,000 people were murdered in one month, Cambodia’s Khemer Rouge, led by Paul Pot, murdered two million people and I don’t have to remind you about Hitler.  Yes, I consider it — that far reaching — so if we want to be the change – we must take responsibility for that and learn — role model this to/for our children and all the world’s children.  Life is easier when we do not oppress ourselves, or others!

Know Your Rights!  Click here to read them!

Here’s to a healthier world!

Love,

Nancy

The Present In Your Future…

~ Finding our heart's space

Do you realize that there is a great present in your future? Well, there is!  Let me explain.

Recently, I was invited to a 2-part workshop with Ti Caine and Sherri Nickols which was quite an inspiring and transformative experience!  In the process that Ti does, “FutureVisioning,” we were asked to imagine ourselves into the future.  When there is a lot of trauma, loss, stress, or a string of (seemingly) unfortunate events, it can be challenging to look into the future because we are stuck and mired in the old stuff.  How can we be present, enjoying time TO-DAY, if we are having a hard time processing yesterday’s stuff and maybe feeling less than hopeful about tomorrow?  Well, there is a way to lasso the different “time zones” and resolve what is needing resolution so that the present is, well, a big, bright beautiful present!

The future creates the present. Lazaris.

Think about that for a moment.

Those who write their goals/dreams down will have a far better chance of actually attaining them than those who do not.  Similarly, if we have a foggy or less-than-sparkling view of the future, then that is what will be created.  When we anchor in our vision of the future, it takes care of the present.

After much frustration with manifesting what I want in life, it is apparent that building a bridge to our highest heart wishes is crucial.  A good place to start is with a vision board.  Gather some magazines and cut out any photos that “speak” to you.  Other items can include something you craft/write yourself to add.  The sky’s the limit with this so let your creativity flow.

If you have some time to do the Futurevisioning process with Ti, I highly recommend it.  Sherri has a great site and I highly recommend signing up for her newsletter.  It was a Blessing to meet and work with both Sherri and Ti.  I am including links to reach them at the end of this post, if you want to find out more.  If you have any questions, feel free to send me a note.

The point, in being here, is to have a fun, connective and soul-expanding time.  We are meant to be free, to grow and thrive.  Whatever I can do – to help you do that – I will do!

Remember who you are:  a chip of the old omniscient, omnipotent Goddess/God Block!  I am just reminding you!  : )

Love,

Nancy

Click here to —-> Check out Sherri’s site

Click here to —-> Check out Ti’s site


Mind Your Mind, Your Spirit, and Your Body

Glowing Heart Lotus

 
 

 

 

I’ve been through a lot of tests/lessons in my life, some of which I  wondered how (and even if) I would make it through them.  Undoubtedly, you have too.  Loss of the people we love can trigger old grief, unhealed, dangling events from childhood that call for attention.  There are so many layers in life that emerge as we grow.  I think they only come when they come because that is when we can deal with them.  If we don’t address them then, they will emerge again, until that layer is resolved.  The best we can do is feel them, understand them, let them speak to us and give to ourselves the very thing that was probably wasn’t present when they occurred:  compassion and Love.  Excellent investment = a journal. Write, write, write – even if it’s a sentence or two each day!

  

In The Nice Girl Syndrome, by Brenda Engel, there is an exercise asking the reader to list all the areas where one’s parents were neglectful.  Not being aware/conscious of these areas can cause repeated reinactments in one’s life, to resolve the pain.  After listing these areas, the next step is to do these items on the list – for yourself, now.  So, if you felt neglected because you always got the hand-me-downs in your family, then make a conscious effort to buy new things (if that’s do-able).  If you felt neglected because one or both of your parents seldom/never said “I Love You”, then tell yourself  “I Love You” in the mirror every night.  Say it until you see your face soften and you really feel it.  I’ve done it.  It feels weird at first, but it does work to soften the heart.  In what ways did you miss out?  Did you miss out on being allowed to freely express your feelings?  Do it now.  Start with the safe people in your life and take small steps, but keep this in mind – we were socialized as women to be nice, good and never get angry (oh my!) – it is your perfect right to feel what you feel.  I highly recommend Brenda’s book (above) for some great insights.
 
 
If you can use this tool for your childhood issues, then why not use it in your adult life as well?  What things are missing from your life now?  How can you give them to yourself?  For instance, maybe your list includes an issue of being lonely.  A solution might be to volunteer at a hospital or take up a hobby that you really enjoy.  With the latter, investing time in the things we love to do scatters lonliness to the wind.  For me, some favourites include reading, painting, and hiking. What do you love to do that you are so pleasurably absorbed in that you lose track of time?
 

In the meantime, it’s easy to get off track with exercisingbecause the mind/emotions are so engaged, but it’s important to feel strong and flexible.  I did an amazing dvd yesterday and wanted to recommend it to you because it is so free-ing to do it!  Click on the link to find some info. on it…  Shiva Rae – Yoga Trance Dance.  Good stuff if you like to dance and like yoga, but you’re not at the hard-core toes in your ears level yet! : ))  I also find that investing a bit of time to move my body helps me to make better, healthier choices later on.  In what ways do you support your body, your temple? 

Love, 

Nancy  : )

Revised CPR Method and The BeeGees-What’s The Connection?

It’s now a lot easier to step in if someone has collapsed to help keep them alive.  The last time I was in a CPR (cardiopulmonary resusitation) class, I was given a dummy to practice administering the breath of life on – to make sure I had the technique down.  At that time, it was fifteen compressions then one breath, and re-start the sequence.  You just counted the beats to yourself and The BeeGees were never involved!  More on the Gibb brothers later…

The revised guidelines exclude having to do the pulmonary part because it has been found that most people have high enough blood oxygen levels that it can be omitted.  The cardio part is of most importance and the aim is the same – to circulate blood throughout the body (especially the brain) for the failing heart.  Interestingly, it was found that some people simply would not step in to help if it involved putting their mouth on the other person’s mouth, leaving people to perish without the critically-important immediate help!  Every minute of no help equates to a near 10% decrease in their ability to survive.

But, how do you know if you are going fast enough to pump the blood around?  One hundred beats per minute is the measure to hit and that’s pretty fast!  Well, it appears that The Bee Gees will forever be your co-partner in saving lives because of their huge hit “Staying Alive.”  Just get that song going in your mind and compress to the beats…. Uh, Uh, Uh, Staying Alive…..  That’s good stuff!

Check out the revised technique here… 

Life is precious.  Please pass this info. on to others.  And, if you didn’t notice the hyperlink to our BeeGees buddies above, click HERE.   It’s okay to get up and dance around – it was a good album!  🙂

Hug Life, Love Life!

Nancy

Looking Back Through an Innocent Heart

What happens to us as we grow from children to adults?  What happens to the magic we see everywhere and feel in our hearts?  What happens to that wonderful direct and honest approach that is first nature?  Why do we speak through our heads instead of speaking from our hearts?  What the hell are we so afraid of as time tackles our dreams to the ground?

Here is a lovely poem that helps us look through our child’s eyes and I mean our child as in the one that stays within our own heart and Soul – the child we “used” to be.  Read along and remember how different our perspective is as adults now.  Why?  Because we’ve built walls and won’t listen to each other’s hearts, having been “stung” before (so, that must mean we’ll get stung again, right?  Better put up a wall!!)

If we aspire to make this planet a better, more peaceful place, it is imperative to talk to one another, resolve issues, approach relationships with honesty and respect.

I will continue this thread of thought with the next post and, in the meantime, please read the poem and remember how an innocent heart views the world.

To a Child

The greatest poem ever known
Is one all poets have outgrown:
The poetry, innate, untold,
Of being only four years old.

Still young enough to be a part
Of Nature’s great impulsive heart,
Born comrade of bird, beast and tree
And unselfconscious as the bee —

And yet with lovely reason skilled
Each day new paradise to build.
Elate explorer of each sense,
Without dismay, without pretense!

In your unstained, transparent eyes
There is no conscience, no surprise:
Life’s queer conundrums you accept
Your strange divinity still kept.

Being that now enthralls you, all
Harmonious, unit, integral,
Will shed into perplexing bits —
Oh, contradiction of the wits!

And Life, that puts all things in rhyme
May make you poet, too, in time —
But there were days, O tender elf,
When you were Poetry itself!

— Christopher Morley (1922)

Until next time, work on yourSelf, for that is all there is you can truly share in the world.

Love,
Nancy