It is said that the brain is like a recording device – recording 24/7. Patients, under hypnosis, have been known to repeat back conversations (verbatim) that the surgical/medical crews  were having while the patient was unconscious. What does that tell us about our brains and what we are saying inside and out, with little thought about its significance? Once in there, these words can wreak havoc.

It seems an imperative time for us all to wake up because global changes have begun and we will need to shift the way we live so our world doesn’t look like a scene from the movie “Soylent Green”. Patterns need to be changed and language is a good place to start.

The first place to start is at a microscopic level: the Self. It takes a constant “weeding” of thoughts to create a clean mind, happy heart, and solid self-esteem with which we can build many great things. For many of us, it will be a life-long process for a variety of reasons – but the point is to be in that place of awareness. It’s not always an easy task and takes discipline to stay on track, but the results are far better than without.

Let’s start with a few words that disrupt people and, ultimately, the planet. You will have your own list that you know doesn’t belong in a Loving environment. I have my list and these words have already been dumped out of my vocabulary for many years: hate, loser, and stupid. How do these words sound to you when you say them?

• Let’s look at the word “hate”.

In my book, hate is opposite to Love. Hatred is at the root of genocide. It describes a total disregard for another Being’s value on this planet. How can I express an annoyance or dislike for anything with such a strong word? It’s sortof like using an atom bomb instead of a broom. War and propaganda are good examples of this and it is well within the capacity of human Beings to live without war. Take a look at war-time propaganda which always tries to alien-ate the “enemy”, convince us that we are NOT inherently the same, NOT all One, and you will find yourself in a war zone of words, never mind bombs and battlegrounds. During the second world war, caricatures of “the enemy” had them depicted as rats! We are all One and the world is shifting closer and closer to this realization, and peace. We just need to heighten awareness. That is why this particular word is just not in my vocabulary anymore.

• Let’s look at the word “loser”.

NO ONE is a loser in this world. We are all One great big, amazing, organism, expressed in billions of unique ways. Many call this God/Universe, etc. If we consider that every Being has courageously chosen to come here in order to learn whatever lesson they are meant to, they cannot be a loser. Further, if we all are One, what we label others is something that also is us! Would we call our child a loser? (hopefully NEVER) The word is designed to wither whatever it is aimed at – is that the kind of world we want to live in? How is this world going to be a better place with this kind of dialogue? Remember, this is the world that we are creating for our children to live in.

• Let’s look at the word “stupid”.

Like loser, this word screams negative. Stupid is a disempowering word, whether it is thrown at someone as an insult or carried on our own breaths, to ourselves; it is a deconstructor.

There are words that create a really good vibe within us– make us feel great and expanded – we resonate with that goodness and pass it along to others – and then there are words that feel acidic and constricting. Again, we must ask ourselves what we want to BUILD in this world. We have to start with ourselves and recognize that we may be carrying the energy from being called these things and that might be why it exists in our vocabulary. It’s like watching violent movies; after a while, a person gets “acclimatized” to what would originally cause an upset from seeing such things.

I have a relative who was told from the time he was a young child that he was stupid. I won’t disclose his relationship to me out of Loving respect for him, but he was told so often that he was stupid (and treated like a loser), that he came to believe it down to the deepest levels of his Being. His life was frought with many heart-breaking experiences (addictions and incarceration) and only now is he starting to see himself as he truly Is, a bright Light, at the age of 50. My heart has mourned his life for a long time and thoughts would cross my mind …. what if he had actually been lovingly supported? What if he was told he was special, unique and beautiful? Hopefully, witnessing such experiences shapes us to bring something better into the world.

Watching our everyday language seems like a tiny, almost undefinable, step toward a better planet, but it holds far more power than we may realize. When we are grounded into the bigger picture ( a life of construction for ourselves and our children ), it could very well be the impetus to continue to weed out our language garden. As time goes on, it has become so concretely obvious how imperative it is to be be gentle with our words – they can build or break. Let them be builders for ourselves, for others, and for the world.